The Year 2023 Started With Drama For Me, What About You?
A Brief Story Of How 2023 Started At My End.
When I hear the adage “you may speak your mind in a family situation,” it hits me differently. All of this is a deception, especially when it comes from the older generation. It is simply a method of manipulation, and I have learned my lesson the wrong way 🤣.
You know I won’t leave you guys hanging. So today comes the juice from my family's yearly meeting which will surely be the last I will be attending has me but a camouflage for the rest 😁. Don’t get me wrong I am not changing myself for anyone but learned how to let go sometimes.
So, on the first of every year, my family has the custom of calling everyone and we discuss the revolution for the new year likewise, the bad behavior of the past year. Well, I normally do not talk because nothing to basically say than to learn but this year's meeting was different because last year I started with my current work and we run it remotely but occasionally we do have work jams and some physical activities which do warrant me leaving my parents house to a rented apartment where we come together to do the needed work.
So this started the whole vibe issue for my family members. They have issues with me going out because they are not used to me going out, but one thing is key that I came to understand, nothing is to be feared but to be understood. What they are to do is to ask me and we will be fine but not my family, they will rather accuse and do meetings behind your back tagging you as the bad egg, and you see this bad egg is not ready to become good, because good girls don’t get the gems but bad ones do.
Back to this year's meeting, I stood up to inform them that no matter how you have issues with me going out, I have another one this January 🤣🤣 and I will go no matter how you see me or perceive me to be. I know I am a bad girl 🤣🤣. I made a statement to tell my brother that normally we do not talk like that. We talk only when he hears, I am not around he calls me to say you have to turn back home as if the house is paying my bills. Even the bible says, if a man is diligent in his work, he shall stand before kings and not before mere man, and standing amongst kings is my dream, and not just mere man while staying at home for people to dictate for me won’t bring this dream to fulfillment. So the meeting basically turned on me, everyone was like I’m not in the right place to correct someone that is older than me, wow, no probs I will let the elders keep up with their mistakes but of course not to my side because I won’t take that shit. I am an advocate for speaking up and I do not stand to be different.
I learned so many things really, which I will be sharing with us:
- They will never understand you
- Once they cannot manipulate you, you are now their enemies
- If your focus changes from them to you, automatically you are a bad person
- When they do not know much about you, you have changed.
This is the summary of what 2022 taught me, no matter how I tried to explain they will still not understand my person, I am a very soft-hearted person, but I know what I want and I support what I want. I will be using this medium to advise our mothers out there, no matter how small the dispute between your kids is, listen to both sides' story, and not you trying to shut up the younger one for the elder one, just because you see it as a form of disrespect, and don’t be judgemental. In your mind, you are solving the issues by shutting the younger ones up but in reality, you are causing a lasting discord that you won’t be alive to resolve. Let everyone speak their minds not every time is the elder's right, the younger ones have a voice also. In the book of Job, the younger one amidst Job’s friend was like he taught wisdom comes with how old you are but not in all cases. I pray God gives our parents wisdom to judge right.
One of my prayer points this year is for God to help me succor my emotions and don’t let them get the best of me. And I promised myself, my emotions will be displayed in front of God alone, there I can be his babe like always, he is the only one that understands me anyway. And to my readers, my emotions will be put into words for us all to learn and unlearn together. Life is nothing but a mist of air.
People expect a lot from other people while they do less for others. Note people notice you have changed but not what made you change toward them which was basically their change.
You see people’s flaws when their focus basically changes from you to them, and you know what? you are not to satisfy them in the first place.
Thank you for your listening ears every time and if there is anything you want me to help write about, I’m just a comment away, and feel free to let me know your thoughts also. Thanks once more 🥰.
