Feeling Like a Fraud? 10 Proven Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
I sat down one beautiful night, lost in thought, staring at the ceiling as if the answers I sought were written in the stars. Would I ever be enough? The question lingered, heavy, pressing against my chest like an unspoken truth.
It wasn’t the first time this thought had crossed my mind, and something told me it wouldn’t be the last. I looked around and saw all my opportunities, achievements, skills, and people who believed in me. By all standards, I had grown and evolved. Yet, there was always this whisper in the back of my mind, telling me I was just lucky, that soon, someone would figure out I wasn’t as capable as they thought.
Imposter Syndrome
That’s what they call it, right? That feeling of being an outsider in your success story, like a guest in a home you built with your hands. I have all I ever wanted, and yet there I was, questioning whether I deserved it.
But then, in that quiet moment, clarity hit me. I have all I have because the Lord has given it to me. Not by accident. Not by luck. But by grace, by effort, by perseverance. I wasn’t a fraud; I was and I am blessed.
So, I decided right there and then: If God has placed me here, then who am I to doubt my worth?
It’s time to own my story, walk confidently in my journey, and remind myself that I am enough.
And if you’ve ever felt the same way, let this be a reminder to you, too. You are not an imposter in your own life. You are right where you are meant to be.
How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome is that sneaky voice in your head that makes you doubt your achievements, making you feel like a fraud even when you’ve worked hard to be where you are. It’s more common than you think; high achievers, creatives, students, and professionals all experience it. But here’s the truth: You are not an imposter. You are enough.
So, how do you silence that voice and truly own your success?
Let me walk you through the steps I am taking, and I hope it will help you also:
- Acknowledge Your Feelings but Don’t Accept Them as Truth
The first step to overcoming imposter syndrome is recognizing it when it creeps in. Instead of pushing the feeling away, acknowledge it:
- “I feel like I don’t belong.”
- “I think I’m not smart enough.”
- “I feel like my success is just luck.”
But then challenge those thoughts. Is there actual evidence that you’re not good enough, or is it just self-doubt playing tricks on you? Most times, it’s the latter.
2. Keep a ‘Wins’ Journal
It’s easy to forget how far you’ve come when your mind is focused on what you haven’t done. Keep a journal where you write down your achievements, compliments from others, and moments where you feel proud of yourself. When imposter syndrome kicks in, go back and read it. It’s proof that you deserve to be where you are.
3. Separate Feelings from Facts
Feeling unqualified doesn’t mean you are unqualified. Think about it: if you weren’t capable, you wouldn’t have made it this far. You got here through effort, learning, and growth — not by accident.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison is a thief of joy. There will always be someone who seems more accomplished, more knowledgeable, or more experienced. But their success doesn’t take away from yours. Focus on your journey, your progress, and your personal growth.
5. Reframe Your Perspective on Failure
A big reason imposter syndrome thrives is the fear of failing. But failure is not proof that you don’t belong — it’s proof that you’re trying, learning, and growing. Every successful person has faced setbacks. The key is to see failure as a lesson, not a definition of your worth.
6. Talk About It
You’d be surprised how many people feel the same way you do. Talk to mentors, colleagues, or friends about your feelings. You’ll likely hear, “Oh, I feel that way too, sometimes!” Just knowing you’re not alone can be reassuring.
7. Accept That Growth Comes with Discomfort
When you step into new roles or challenges, it’s normal to feel unsure at first. That’s not imposter syndrome — it’s just growth. Instead of thinking, “I don’t belong,” try saying, “I’m learning, and I will get better.”
8. Own Your Success
You didn’t get lucky. You didn’t trick people into thinking you’re capable. You worked for this. Start giving yourself credit for your efforts, skills, and perseverance. When someone compliments your work, don’t dismiss it — own it. Say “Thank you” instead of “Oh, it wasn’t a big deal.”
9. Trust in God’s Plan
If you believe in God, remember that He has placed you where you are for a reason. You are not an imposter in His plan. Every skill, opportunity, and success you have is part of His purpose for you. Lean on that truth when doubt creeps in.
10. Keep Going Anyway
Even when imposter syndrome whispers, “You’re not good enough,” keep moving forward. Success isn’t about never doubting yourself — it’s about pushing through despite those doubts. With time, your confidence will catch up with your abilities.
You are not an imposter in your own life. You are qualified, deserving, and capable. So walk boldly, own your story, and remember: You belong here.
Finally, I would like to recommend a book to you: The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. Check it out; it could truly transform your life! If you’ve already read it, don’t forget to share what you learned in the comments.
Thank you, your penfriend: Adejoke
